So…Now What?
So…..Now What?
We’ve all been there….you put something together, from idea to execution, feel like all bases are covered, details completed, stars are aligned ~ and then…. Along comes a 30 foot wave of disappointment, which then crashes down so hard, you aren’t sure which way is up. Now What?
It is said that success isn’t determined by what happens to you in this life, it’s how you respond to what happens…. It is my belief that in that moment, is where our future lives.
Give In. Give Up. Move On. You Tried.
That is one option. One that I would say largely dominates because it gives us permission to comfortably, justifiably, lick our wounds and move in the direction of what some may describe as “safe.” I invite you to consider that moving in that direction, is most likely opposite of moving in the direction of your dreams.
In the same sense that allowing ourselves to believe that life “is what it is” (i literally cringe when I hear people say this, as it is such powerless statement, drenched in “victim”, and topped with a sprinkle of cynicism), there is another equally powerful “trap”….. the one of staying stuck and doing nothing because the fear of being “wrong” or “failing” is greater than your current ability to see beyond that fear.
Here’s is what I know….. Success, most always, comes only after there have been some considerable “failures” ~ or, as I prefer to call them, “Rehearsals.” How do you get better? How do you get beyond what isn’t working? You tweak, you alter, you fine tune….and you do it again. and again. and again.
Keep your eyes and your heart focused on the impact that pursuing and achieving this goal / dream will have on your life, your family, your community, your world.
Do not allow negativity and doubt to steal your passion and vision.
Do acknowledge what is true and present for you in this moment…be sad, angry, deflated, anxious, frustrated, embarrassed, whatever it may be, give yourself a specific and limited amount of time to process and then be done. Pick yourself up, grab a pen and something to write on and reaffirm what it is that you are creating and what this accomplishment will give you. Get clear and definite about your purpose. Create your reality with your thoughts and your language…the two most powerful tools we have.
Surround yourself with people who are better, smarter, more spiritual, wealthier, more successful, more focused, more loving than you are….as we are all the average of the 5 people we spend the most time with…limit your time with those who try to keep you thinking, speaking, living in the realm of what is “common”, rather than supporting and encouraging you to shift your thinking, speaking, and living into the realm of what is possible.
Imagine if Thomas Edison had listened to all those folks who kept rallying for him to “Give Up. Give In. Move On.” after 10,000 “rehearsals”, he created the light bulb.
What will be your light bulb?
Shine.
Live, Love, Give…….
~R
