Your Very Best Life

Stand firmly in the space of honor.  Celebrate who you are and who you are not….. Commit to yourself right this second that you will NO LONGER settle.  Not in your career.  Not in your friendships.  Not in love.  Not in life.

If “it” makes you feel “less than”….consider it’s time to give “it” up and let it go.

Risky?  Maybe.

Scary? Likely

Worth it?  Absolutely…Your life depends on it.

I guarantee you, whatever is on the other side, is better than be burdened with waking each morning with a sense of misery and disdain as you go to work at a job that you despise.

I promise you, it will be better to be alone, than with a lover that does not cherish and adore you….has it ever felt amazing to be someone’s 2nd choice or worse yet, invisible?

I assure you, it will be better to let go of toxic friendships with those whom only encourage and support dreams and lives as big (or usually as small) as their own.

let your light shine…Bright. BIG. Blinding.
You deserve it you know…

Welcome to your Monday.

I LOVE Mondays…it’s a new week:  fresh, clean, energy is high with possibilities.

If you play your week like a game, you can experience multiple wins.

It could look like this:

• Make your Game Plan :  Break your week into 5 or 6 major categories ( work, family, health, appointments, fun, personal development/spirituality, etc)

• Block out your calendar to reflect the times you are allocating to the categories you created.  (rule of life #316:  if you don’t plan it, it won’t happen, so, yes, put “morning walk” or “call my girlfriend Jules & catch up” or “read something that will matter” IN YOUR CALENDAR!)

• Jot down the 5 most important things that need to happen this week to move you in the direction of your dreams. Put a copy of this list in your car, on your desk, on your bathroom mirror, places where you will see it multiple times a day.
• Make a “master task list” for the week… Fill in the allotted time with tasks, spread over the week, including scheduled appts, calls, etc…

• Pick a theme for the week (or each day if you prefer) & be intentional about it.

For instance, today, my theme is energy & completion.  So, I have created a quick playlist in Itunes this morning, filled with music that gives me energy. As I am listening (and occasionally singing really loud because it’s just me and Bella the cat here this morning), I have entered my master list into my task list & set reminders for my calendar.  It’s one day at a time, one hour at a time… I will deviate, I will fall off track, I will get sucked into an email, which takes me to a website, which I will click through and then, I will realize it’s been 30 minutes…. and I’ll get back on track. I realized long ago, a plan is critical, without one, forget about it… whatever “it” is, isn’t going to magically happen.

However, I’ve discovered it’s equally critical to realize in every plan there has to be some flex, and the ability to let yourself off the hook when you stray… Give up the drama around it… take a breath, and get back to it… You have to be able to roll with it, or you will forever feel like you are drowning.

Play with it….set it up so it makes sense and works for YOU… so much more rewarding than working “someone else’s system/agenda” and always feeling like you are just running blind, and never get there…

So, my wish for you, for today, this week, and moving forward… that every Monday from here on out, You Create Magic instead of Managing Mania….. and live Your Very Best Life.  Cheers.

Much Love,
R

When you wake in the morning, and think of your “job” or your “career”…do you feel energized or exhausted?  When was the last time that you really evaluated what lights you up?  I have an invitation and a challenge…..
in the next 24 hours, schedule some time (as in BLOCK OUT YOUR CALENDAR) for an appointment with yourself.  Quiet, free of distractions, (if you have to jump in the car, drive to a park and walk into the “woods” to get away….do so) and LISTEN…
What do you hear when you ask the question…if I could do anything for a career, what would it be?  What would you do if time, money, space, were not considerations?  What are you passionate about?  What is as natural to you as breathing?  What gets you jazzed when you have the opportunity to do that?  Is is fly-fishing? Cooking? skydiving? scrapbooking? golf? photography? writing? painting? gardening? etc etc etc…
I urge you……………………. I beg you………………….. FIGURE IT OUT…. and find a way to make your work match up with your passion…
~When passion and opportunity meet…. MAGIC happens.

Much Love,
R

Last night was extraordinary. It was one of those nights that I fell asleep very tired, slept for about 3 hours, and woke up wide awake and with more electricity in my brain than a lightning storm mid summer.
When I opened my eyes to look at the clock, I had literally hundreds of thoughts and ideas and fragments streaming in my head….it was like the conveyor belt at the beginning of Laverne and Shirley. Given that I am no stranger to utilizing the quiet hours when the rest of the world is dreaming…I got up and went down to my office to put this barrage of creative chaos on paper in hopes that would give me the ability to recapture the state of sleep. Two hours later, I lifted the pen from the many pages of paper and realized that what I was looking at was the blueprint to a significant “ah~ha” moment. I’ve been reading a classic… “Think & Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill (the 21st century updated edition). One of the most powerful things that has crystalized is the critical importance of definiteness of purpose…. If you aren’t clear what it is that you want….you will sit in mediocrity hell for decades and wonder why you aren’t getting the “secret”. The other thing that I have gotten present to again is paying attention. How many times do you get a “nudge” or a “flash” or a “feeling” about something and brush it off as not possible, or worse, insignificant? I have ignored those flashes for too long… so caught up in guilt and shame and frantic exhaustion around the “should haves” that I couldn’t see the gifts of brilliance and opportunity coming from my heart of hearts. My wish for you tonight is that you stop. listen. feel. look. see……and when you have flashes of inspiration…grab it. Fairy Dust and Fireflies may just set you free…..

Live Love Give.

~R

Tomorrow.

Tomorrow is an interesting thing.

When used properly, tomorrow is a new day, a fresh start, the clean canvas. Tomorrow often holds the anticipatory excitement of magic ~Christmas morning, your scheduled flight to the beach for a vacation you can’t wait to begin, the arrival of a letter that keeps you connected to another in a way that email never could~. Tomorrow allows us to make plans, envision beyond this moment, and live into a future that we create. Tomorrow is a gift. Every single tomorrow that we get to be here, alive, making a difference, being mommies and daddies, friends, sons, daughters, sisters, brothers, neighbors….that means something. I would be willing to bet that every single one of us has lost someone that we loved so deeply, we would give about anything for one more tomorrow. Tomorrow is a reminder of all that we have to be thankful for, and serves as platform for laying the foundation of our gratitude.

Tomorrow is an interesting thing.

Tomorrow, on the flip side, can rob you of your vivacity and leave you lethargic and anxious and frustrated. Tomorrow, I will start my diet. Tomorrow I will start exercising. Tomorrow I will deal with the elephant in the room. Tomorrow I will make a list, and accomplish something when I get to cross those pesky things off that list that I have “needed” to do for who knows how long. Tomorrow I will make a list of all my lists. Tomorrow I will do the things I need to do to grow my business and support my team, and learn something on purpose. Tomorrow. Ugh.

This has been and continues to be the monster in my closet. This is where procrastination lives. This is the absence of power, vitality, and action. This is the vehicle to waking up and thinking, how is it possible that another week has gone by, another month has come and gone, and I am still in the same place I was last week, month, year, whatever. How many times have we started the week, completely clear about how it was going to look-whether it was going back to the gym and working out 3 days that week, or planning meals so we weren’t making “last minute, let’s just get take-out decisions”, or this was going to be the week we get caught up on all that we have been ignoring. How many times have we started a new month, with absolute conviction that this was going to be the one where we hit that next goal in our business, really, this month is it…no more messing around. At the end of the week, you feel slightly irritated with yourself, a bit in awe that the week is over….BUT, next week you will start fresh, right? At the end of the month, you find yourself uneasy, and rather traumatized that yet another month has gone by….and this, my friends, is how life ends up happening to you rather than life being designed by you.

So, wow. Today is February 10th. How did that happen? Today is a good day. Today I celebrate my beautiful Grammy turning 87 years old, and how much light and love she brings to this world, and my prayer is for many more tomorrows with her.

My invitation to all of us is this…. Pick something ~ anything from any area of your life, which would truly madly deeply make a difference, and do that thing TODAY. Whether that means scheduling that Dr.’s appointment you have been putting off for months, or reaching out and connecting with an old friend who you have let slip out of your life, or make 25 phone calls today to people who need an opportunity to change their “circumstances” and take back control of their life- don’t simply elect to choose something that is “easy” so that you can tell yourself you did something, single out something significant to you, your life, your future….and what you will do with that one thing today, will make your tomorrow what it is meant to be-bright, shiny, amazing & life-affirming. Let’s take this journey back from tomorrow ~ together.