On the other side…
Stand firmly in the space of honor. Celebrate who you are and who you are not….. Commit to yourself right this second that you will NO LONGER settle. Not in your career. Not in your friendships. Not in love. Not in life.
If “it” makes you feel “less than”….consider it’s time to give “it” up and let it go.
Risky? Maybe.
Scary? Likely
Worth it? Absolutely…Your life depends on it.
I guarantee you, whatever is on the other side, is better than be burdened with waking each morning with a sense of misery and disdain as you go to work at a job that you despise.
I promise you, it will be better to be alone, than with a lover that does not cherish and adore you….has it ever felt amazing to be someone’s 2nd choice or worse yet, invisible?
I assure you, it will be better to let go of toxic friendships with those whom only encourage and support dreams and lives as big (or usually as small) as their own.
let your light shine…Bright. BIG. Blinding.
You deserve it you know…
June 9th, 2010 at 6:06 pm
Your message has made my day,, seem more hopeful.. Thank you
June 9th, 2010 at 6:41 pm
WOW HOW COINCIDENTAL TO FIND THIS IN MY INBOX AS I AM CURRENTLY @ A CROSSROADS WITH THIS VERY SAME TOPIC..FOR THREE YEARS I ALLOWED MYSELF DESPITE BEING A VERY INTELLIGENT&ARTICULATE WOMAN TO COMPROMISE MY INTEGRITY FOR A UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIP..WHER YES ALL OF THE ABOVE FROM BEING PLACED SECOND TO ONLY BEING A PRIORITY @ THIS PSRSONS CONVIENANCE..I NEVER THOUGHT THAT I WOULD FEEL SO MUCH DISDAIN OVER LOVING ANOTHER HUMAN..& YET I STILL HAVE ALLOWED HIM TO SANATOGE NUMEROUS RELATIONSHIPS BECAUSE HE & I HAVE THIS UNEXPLAINABLE SICKNESS THAT SEEMS TO FIND US RIGHT BACK AT EACH OTHERS DOOR..I HAVE EVEN GOTTEN ENGAGED& TRIED TO MOVE ON..ONLY TO HAVE HIM PROFESS HIS DEVASTATION& HURT..TO THE POINT OF CONFUSING ME TIL I WAS LEFT NO CHOICE BUT TO CALL IT OFF..I’M NOT WEAKENTALLY.. JUST WEAK WHEN IT COMES TO LOVE..ALTHO I HAVE BEEN HALFASSED IN RELATIONSHIPS..I NEVER HAD THAT ISSUE WITHIN MY REALMS OF FAULTS..NOW ALMOST 5 YEARS LATER IM STILL TRYING TO FGURE OUT WHY IF I KEEP TAKING 6 STEPS TO MOVE FROM THIS SITUATION ..I END UP TAKING TEN BACKWARDS JUST BY RECIEVING A PHONE CALL OR A ” I STILL LOVE YOU& MISS U FROM HIM..CURRENTLY I MET A GUY WHO I SDORE& RESPECTS ME & IS CONCERNED ABOUT MAKING ME SMILE..BUT THE CYCLE&SABATOGE IS STARTING AGAIN& I DNT WANT TO SPEND MY LIFE WASTING ON A PERSON I KNW REALY CAN NEVERAKE ME A FULL PRIORITY..HIS MONEY & HIS LIFESTYLE HAS ALWAYS PUT ME LASt..I’M BETTER THAN THIS SITUATION..BUT MY HEART HAS ITS OWN AGENDA..THANK YOU;,$
June 9th, 2010 at 8:40 pm
Beautifully written and so true… How do we know when we have finally arrived at the other side? When forgiveness permeates our hearts and we can say with sincerity, “Thank you for the gift of that experience. I wouldn’t be who I am today without it.” And eventually, it comes.
Here’s to courage to be authentic!
Tera
June 10th, 2010 at 10:24 am
Wow! That was powerful and moving! Thanks! Barb